Couples work is a type of framework in which a therapist with clinical experience working with couples, helps two people involved in a romantic relationship gain insight into their relationship, resolve conflict and improve relationship satisfaction utilizing a variety of therapeutic interventions.
We use several methods in assisting couples in working together.
COGNITIVE BEHAVOIRAL THERAPY (CBT)
CBT for Couples teaches partners how to restructure unhelpful interpretations of their partner’s actions. For example, maybe your sexual intimacy has gone down after your husband or wife experiences a major trauma or is going through a bout of depression.
There could be anger between partners or coming from one partner to the other that is creating distance. Maybe there’s a physical distance between you and your spouse as you travel to work. If one of the partners is struggling with a mental health disorder or personality disorder, it can be very difficult to have a thriving relationship because there are psychological aspects that need to change to stop the dysfunctional patterns. If you yourself feel as if you are not getting the understanding or support you need to be the best ‘you’, CBT for couples can help you identify some ways of interpreting situations that may be at the root of the problems.
The Gottman Method Theory aims to increase friendship and closeness in couples. It does this by showing them ways to deal with problems and conflicts in a positive way. Not all conflicts have a solution, but the theory is that you can learn to live with it and not allow it to destroy your relationship. The theory also focuses on building a shared life together. That involves
being more attentive and considerate to your partner. Making tiny positive changes in small, everyday things can make the relationship more stable, supportive, and stronger so that it can grow and develop.
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy for Couples (EFCT) is attachment based and conceptualizes the negative, rigid interaction patterns and absorbing negative affect that typify distress in couple relationships in terms of emotional disconnection and insecure
attachment. EFCT draws on humanistic and systemic principles to help create a more secure attachment bond in a relationship. This model integrates the intrapsychic perspective afforded by experiential approaches with an interpersonal systemic perspective to help distressed partners shape emotional accessibility, responsiveness, and engagement—the key elements of attachment security.
Prevention and Relationship Enhancement Program (PREP) is a research-based approach to teach couples (premarital and marital) how to communicate effectively, work as a team to
solve problems, manage conflicts without damaging closeness, and preserve and enhance commitment and friendship. PREP is for couples interested in strengthening their marriage by improving their communication and problem-solving skills. The program is designed to teach couples communication skills and ground rules for handling conflict and promoting intimacy, with the aim of preventing future marital problems and divorce.
Lasting Intimacy through Nurturing, Knowledge & Skills (LINKS), is built upon the foundation in major areas of research on: intimacy and romantic love; how trust is developed and
maintained; forgiveness in marital relations; resiliency and commitment in marriage; emotional styles and expression in marriage; attachment/closeness in adult relationships; sexual intimacy in marriage; personal boundaries and affairs; and predictors of marital satisfaction.